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December 13th, 2011
As we celebrate the end of a phenominal year, ConceiveAbilities was honored to host a holiday event in both Chicago and Denver. On Sunday, December 4th, 7 of our Chicago area surrogates, their partners and intended parents gathered for brunch and bocce ball. It was a neat opportunity to see many of the surrogates with their intended parents – we don’t have many opportunities to gather at the same time. Plus, it gave the intended parents a chance to visit with others who are in different stages of the process. One of the surrogates, nearly 9 months pregnant with twins, was vibrant proof that a long, difficult journey can have a happy ending.
Our Denver group celebrated the season on Thursday, December 8th at an evening soiree downtown, complete with festive (virgin) cocktails. More than a dozen surrogates were able to attend, representing all parts of the process – one anxiously awaiting a match to another entering the second trimester of her second surrogacy journey with ConceiveAbilities. It was also a chance for intended parents to visit with their surrogates and other couples in similar situations. We were thrilled to see people speaking so honestly about their experiences and what brought them to this place – and their excitement about what 2012 will bring to their lives.
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December 12th, 2011
This article originally appeared in Everything Conceivable, the official newsletter of ConceiveAbilities.
Click here to view the original version.
As the end of the year rapidly approaches, the field of family building can feel like a cross-country marathon. Autumn is a time of whirlwind conferences, seminars and continuing education opportunities, as well as fundraisers around the nation. In October, ConceiveAbilities was once again an exhibitor at the American Society for Reproductive Medicine’s annual meeting in Orlando. The conference, which attracts professionals from around the globe, is a chance to reconnect with familiar colleagues while meeting new practitioners and building wonderful relationships.
Later that month, ConceiveAbilities was a proud sponsor for the National Foundation for Fertility Research’s (NFFR) first annual Mad Scientist Ball in Denver. NFFR is a publicly-funded, non profit organization determined to fight infertility and to research a cure. We were pleased to support the cause and a team that will not stop until every hopeful parent has a child.
ConceiveAbilities was also in attendance at the American Fertility Association’s annual Illuminations Gala in New York City in November, and in December hosted holiday parties for our surrogacy program in both Chicago and Denver.

On Sunday, December 4th, 7 of our Chicago area surrogates, their partners and intended parents gathered for brunch and bocce ball. It was a neat chance to see some of the surrogates with their intended parents – we don’t have many opportunities to gather at the same time. Plus, it gave the intended parents time to visit with others who are in different stages of the process. One of the surrogates, nearly 9 months pregnant with twins, was vibrant proof that a long, difficult journey can have a happy ending.

Our Denver group celebrated the season on Thursday, December 8th at an evening soiree downtown, complete with festive (virgin) cocktails. More than a dozen surrogates were able to attend, representing all parts of the process – one anxiously awaiting a match to another entering the second trimester of her second surrogacy journey with ConceiveAbilities. It was also a chance for intended parents to visit with their surrogates and other couples in similar situations. We were thrilled to see people speaking so honestly about their experiences and what brought them to this place – and their excitement about what 2012 will bring to their lives.
ConceiveAbilities wishes the best to our families, friends and colleagues during the holiday season!
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November 7th, 2011
Tomorrow, November 8th, Mississippi voters will head to the polls to vote on what could potentially ban IVF state-wide. Initiative 26, the so-called “Personhood Amendment,” stands to change how a person is defined and could, by default, put an end to fertility treatment in Mississippi. The consequences, of course, are devestating to intended parents and have the potential to become a far-reaching threat.
Resolve.org has extensive information about the topic on their website, and even has an online pledge you can sign to take a stand against the initiative. We encourage you to learn more about it and do what you can in these final hours, no matter where you live.
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October 28th, 2011
Some truly disturbing news out of Mississippi this week as the state is poised to potentially ban IVF. A ballot initiative on November’s ticket could amend the state’s constitution to define embryos as persons – effectively outlawing some in-vitro practices.
While the goal of the personhood movement is to undermine Roe vs. Wade by legally changing the definition of what a person is, it will undoubtedly impact IVF too. We’ve discussed the gross disrespect to women’s health rights in this country many times on the blog – Nazca was even featured on The Huffington Post in a November 2008 piece about how that year’s election could affect the future of advanced reproduction technology. Three years later, the threat still looms.
Read more about the initiative in Michelle Goldberg’s article at The Daily Beast.
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October 26th, 2011
Whether the topic is contraception, abortion or different aspects of assisted reproduction, women have been fighting for the right to make the decisions about their own bodies for years. It seems to me that how, when and why we choose to build our families falls into that same category – a decision women fight to make about their own bodies.
A story recently reposted to the Huffington Post (originally posted on Grindstone.com) asks whether surrogacy is “becoming a trend for the high-powered career woman,” and shares various opinions on how, when and why women choose to build their families. How is this any different?
The reasons hopeful parents work with surrogates are many and varied, but the choice to do so is just that – a choice. And with so many recent threats to women’s reproductive health options, it is a choice that must be protected.
Why do others – experts or not – have the right to weigh in on this very personal decision? Have we really come such a long way? We’d love to hear your thoughts.
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October 20th, 2011
Egg donation – and its compensation in particular – has been a touchy topic in the United Kingdom for as long as it’s been scientifically possible, but a decision made yesterday by the Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority (HFEA) is a major step in the right direction.
Now, egg donors will be compensated a fixed fee of 750 pounds (approximately $1200) for loss of earnings, expenses, and to “recognize their gift,” according to an article published in The Telegraph. In recent years UK egg donors could be reimbursed up to 250 pounds for expenses, but the shortage of donors in comparison to the demand drove intended parents abroad, eventually forcing authorities to reconsider their stance on compensation. Historically, many egg donors in the UK haven’t received any compensation at all, as this is how authorities deemed egg donation would remain an “altruistic” act.
While we believe all donors participate, ultimately, for altruistic reasons, the fact is that the process is far from easy. It is time intensive and a huge commitment, both physically and emotionally. Women want to help, but shouldn’t be expected to take major financial blows for transportation, childcare, loss of wages, and other expenses involved. Here in the United States, donors are compensated for their time and effort – not for the eggs themselves. With the help of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, reputable agencies like ConceiveAbilities follow strict guidelines regarding compensation.
The new compensation model in the UK is actually based on systems currently used in Denmark and Spain, and includes new rules for sperm donors as well. They also left an agreement that egg sharing – where donors can receive their own fertility treatment for free or at a lesser cost in return for their donation – would remain unchanged.
The HFEA will likely revisit the topic in the future. Policy officer Danielle Hamm, who assisted in the decision, admitted, “This is not an exact science, it’s a judgment.”
What do you think? Is the new law enough to boost egg donation in the UK, or will donors and intended parents alike continue to look abroad in order to participate in the process? You can read more about this developing story here.
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September 29th, 2011
It goes without saying that certain aspects of assisted reproduction can be a bit tricky, but one – the issue of donor anonymity – has moved to the forefront of our industry discussion recently. A recent NPR blog broached this complicated topic through the eyes of several donor-conceived women and their efforts to find the identity of the men who donated the sperm that help create them. These women are not the only ones taking this path. We’ve seen a notable increase in the number of participants, on both sides of this relationship, who are interested in (or at least open to) future contact. In fact, some donors are even willing to meet with their recipient during the cycle.
I think it might be surprising to some that most donor-conceived children search for their donors mainly for the biological link. They report the three main reasons as curiosity about donor characteristics, medical reasons, and just wanting the experience of meeting the donor. In fact, one of the women highlighted in this NPR story noted that in addition to a sense of loss, she felt there was an obvious irony to this situation: “Couples use donor sperm or egg because they very much want at least some biological connection to their child.” And yet, she says, “by using anonymous donors they cut off that child’s other links.”
As more and more donor-conceived adult children seek out their donors, it’s imperative that donors and recipients work with reputable agencies who not only educate all parties about anonymity and how laws can and likely will change in the future, but to help navigate the complexities of this issue in a way that respects and protects everyone involved.
Obviously, this issue is still working itself out. I’m interested in what you think about it, so please share your thoughts.
-Nazca
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August 3rd, 2011
This article originally appeared in Everything Conceivable, the official newsletter of ConceiveAbilities.
Click here to view the original version.
Our surrogate picnic events have been the perfect opportunity for surrogates and their families to share their experiences and learn more about the process in a laid-back, friendly environment. The sense of community amongst these amazing women truly sets ConceiveAbilities apart, and we are grateful to each one of them and their spouses and children for taking part in such a special journey. By sharing these events with our newsletter subscribers, it enables the intended parents we work with as well as our network of professionals to gain a deeper perspective on our program’s commitment to third party family building.
Denver Surrogate Picnic June 2011
On a sunny afternoon, our Denver-area surrogates and staff gathered for ConceiveAbilities’ second annual surrogacy picnic. Nearly 60 people attended for a day filled with sun, fun, and lots of ice cream!
“ Being a surrogate is such an amazing and special thing and it is so refreshing to be able to share it with people who have been through it as well, or are about to go through it. ” – Paula
“ It was great to get to know the other surrogates better. We see each other at monthly meetings but it was nice to be in a casual environment. ” – Rebecca
“ By the time I left I had all my questions and more answered. Everyone was so warm and friendly. It made me really excited to work with an agency that cares so much about making this an amazing experience for everyone involved. ” – Amanda
Chicago Surrogate Picnic July 2011
In spite of a rainy start, more than 30 people braved the elements for ConceiveAbilities’ first annual Chicago surrogacy picnic. Armed with umbrellas and good humor, staff, surrogates and their families gathered for cookie decorating.
The weather was just another example of how these ladies handle the unexpected with grace and a smile. In an often unpredictable journey, we were once again reminded of the dedication of our surrogates.
“ The picnic was a relaxed and casual setting, yet I felt comfortable asking all of the serious and important questions. I left with a lot of good information and very excited to start the whole process with ConceiveAbilities! ” – Amie
“ It was fun to meet family members and potential surrogates. And, of course, see the other pregnant ladies! ” – Sara
“ I loved getting to know the families of all the surrogates and seeing old and new faces. ” – Danielle
We hope everyone is having a wonderful summer and look forward to connecting with you!
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July 29th, 2011
In spite of a rainy start, more than 30 people braved the elements for ConceiveAbilities’ first annual Chicago surrogacy picnic last weekend. Armed with umbrellas and good humor, staff, surrogates and their families gathered under the park shelter for cookie decorating and a chance to discuss all different aspects of the surrogacy process.
We were thrilled to welcome several women at the very beginning of the process looking to learn more. “The picnic,” said Amie, “was a relaxed and casual setting, yet I felt comfortable asking all of the serious and important questions. I left with a lot of good information and very excited to start the whole process with ConceiveAbilities!”
Kristina, who is four months pregnant, is a regular at our meet ups. “As is true for any gathering where ConceiveAbilities or other fellow surrogates are at, the picnic could not have been any better,” she said. “There was something for everyone.”
By mid-morning the skies brightened, giving the kids – and several husbands – a chance to venture out from the shelter. Sara, who was there with her husband and their two young sons, said “The kids couldn’t get enough of the playground and cookie decorating…and puddle jumping!” It was also a chance to share her experiences so far – she is four months pregnant with twins! “It was fun to meet family members and potential surrogates,” she said. “And, of course, see the other pregnant ladies!”
Danielle is preparing for an upcoming IVF cycle with her intended parents. “It’s wonderful to know that there is a great support group of friends that know and care about what you’re going through,” she said. “I loved getting to know the families of all the surrogates and seeing old and new faces.”
Indeed, Kristina introduced us to several friends who are interested in the program and was also able to connect for the first time with some of our staff as well. “I thoroughly enjoyed having the opportunity to get to know a few of the staff members better, especially those that I haven’t had as much contact with.”
“ConceiveAbilities is an amazing ‘surrogate family,’” Sara affirmed. “I couldn’t imagine going through this journey any other way.”
The weather was just another example of how these ladies handle the unexpected with grace and a smile. In an often unpredictable journey, we were once again reminded of the dedication of our surrogates.
Cindy, who is soon to be matched with intended parents, put it best: “It’s amazing that a group of women can come together from all walks of life, different backgrounds, but with the same common goal – to provide a gift to a couple that they have been longing for.” It’s truly what ConceiveAbilities is all about, and we are so fortunate to work with these incredible women who make that mission a reality.
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July 28th, 2011
For decades, anonymity has been the hallmark of egg and sperm donation. Like most agencies, we take great care to protect the identities of our donors and recipients and establish a direct agreement between parties to ensure the desired degree of privacy of all parties involved. A new law in Washington, though, makes it the first state to change the “rules.” It will now guarantee that children who are conceived with the help of egg donation agencies and sperm banks in Washington have access to their donors’ full name and medical history. Unless the donor specifically opts out of this agreement to be identified, the information will be available to the child when he or she turns 18.
It’s a controversial concept, particularly considering what the standard has been for so many years. Unlike adoption, where open relationships have become quite common, the act of “donating” is often viewed as something that is done anonymously – like blood and organ donations. But in a Time.com article last week, law professor Julie Shapiro notes that “there is an emerging sense that it’s a problem for children and it’s a problem for donors. They have regrets.”
We are finding that more and more intended parents want to provide this option for their future child. It’s not so much about identity now, but rather to answer questions about their genetic origins later. And donors tend to respond in kind. While they’re not necessarily looking to share personal information, they may be able to see it from the recipients’ perspective and agree to be identified in the future. The law in Washington is clarifying something that is already happening in many legal documents around the country – the donor must confirm that she is open to the potential of future contact, should the child desire it.
In the field of third party reproduction, laws are constantly evolving. Donor anonymity will continue to be a delicate aspect of the legal process, and none of us – states included – should be the final judge of what is right for each donor match.
Read more about the new law and its implications at Time.com.
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