When MSNBC host Melissa Harris-Perry and her husband welcomed their daughter earlier this month, the announcement was accompanied by a beautiful tribute to their gestational carrier.
“It took two families, three states, four doctors, and five attorneys to get this little girl here. And while our gestational carrier has no genetic tie to our little one, she is now our family. She gave our daughter love, safety, and nourishment for nine months. On Valentine’s Day, she gave her life and placed her in our arms.”
While her news was met with warmth and joy, particularly from the many who have utilized third party reproduction to build their own families, others applauded the fact that Harris-Perry herself made the choice to go public with their story.
In an article for Slate, contributor Jessica Grose, noted, “I’ve been somewhat appalled of late at commentators who say celebrities older than 35 must talk about their struggles to get pregnant.”
With a number of women in the spotlight having children a bit later in life, much speculation is made about reproductive assistance – and many seem to expect announcements about how they had their babies when nature indicates it’s not possible. Grose made an interesting point that it is not up to celebrities to act as our biology teachers.
“There is no shortage of media telling women about how their eggs are shriveling up and dying,” she said. “It’s a tragic disservice to assume that women can’t learn that there’s a relationship between age and fertility without someone famous telling them so.”
We have always maintained that disclosure is a very personal decision, regardless of celebrity status. While it’s been exciting to witness more and more people feeling comfortable sharing their journeys, we certainly respect the decision not to. What do you think? Do public figures owe an explanation to the rest of the world regarding the conception of their families?